Let's talk about the Big 'C' - Communication.
Communication defined:
- the act or process of using words, sounds, signs, or behaviors to express or exchange information or to express your ideas, thoughts, feelings, etc., to someone else
Periods of silence in a marriage lead to isolation, separation and delayed purpose. One of the highest levels of human interaction is marriage. The scripture says, "Again I say unto you, that if two of you shall agree on earth as touching any thing that they shall ask, it shall be done for them of my Father which is in heaven." (Matthew 18:19).
Notice God did not just say touching would do it. It takes more than just physical contact and sexual intimacy to have good success in a marriage, you must communicate. Agreement takes communication. You can't agree with somebody unless they effectively communicate with you the thing that they want you to agree with them. Husbands and wives must come into agreement if they are to walk (live) together. The prophet Amos posed the question, "Can two walk together, except they be agreed." Amos 3:3
Notice God did not just say touching would do it. It takes more than just physical contact and sexual intimacy to have good success in a marriage, you must communicate. Agreement takes communication. You can't agree with somebody unless they effectively communicate with you the thing that they want you to agree with them. Husbands and wives must come into agreement if they are to walk (live) together. The prophet Amos posed the question, "Can two walk together, except they be agreed." Amos 3:3
Agreement defined:
- the absence of incompatibility between two things; consistency.
- Synonyms: correspondence, consistency, compatibility, accord.
Could it be that the reason you think you are no longer compatible with your spouse is because you don't communicate any more and/or never learned to communicate with one another from the beginning. You speak words to each other but those words are not effectively communicating what's really on your heart and mind. You have adapted your life-style to just mere talking to be cordial however it is evident the two of you are not walking together because there's no true agreement. When communication ceases things began to decrease and eventually decease.
God's will is that you have a viable, meaningful relationship and union with your spouse however His ways of doing things are not like human ways. If we want good godly success in our marriage we must be willing to do things God's way.
The bible says,
"man shall not live by bread alone but by every word that proceedeth out of the mouth of God." Matthew 4:4
God is saying to us here that it takes more than natural resources to sustain life. You and I must be willing to be imitators of God and copy His examples. God was saying if you are going to have a fruitful and/or successful relationship with me there has to be communication. If God doesn't speak (communicate) nothing in our lives could live or flourish. This then holds true for all unions or relationships.
God's will for your marriage is that you and your spouse would grow in your love and honor for one another by cultivating and nurturing effective communication in all good things.
My prayer for you today is that you and your spouse would begin to practice effect communication, God's way - today!
Philemon 1:6
That the communication of thy faith may become effectual by the acknowledging of every good thing which is in you in Christ Jesus
We will talk more on this subject in future blogs.
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